Why is it that with everything that is meant to help you there is someone that tries to make you feel bad for your decisions? I know that I compare addiction to church a lot but this one couldn’t be more of an overt comparison if I have ever seen one. First forgive me that I cannot give all of the details since i am a professional who currently still has a job in addictions.
Our patients face a lot of bias from friends, family, and yes some medical professionals. I don’t make excuses for them not making the journey on the road to recovery but you could imagine that if someone is going to judge you every step of the way it would make this journey very challenging. Just as a new convert or someone who was outside of the church for a long time makes a genuine effort to come back would feel un-welcomed and unsupported I think this is how a person in recovery feels especially when the professionals who are supposed to see your medical condition as just that. (kind of like a sin condition)
I’m sorry I digress. My point is that when people make choices they should accept responsibilities for the consequences of those choices but they should not have to pay for them over and over. Imagine going into the grocery store and stepping into the check out lane to buy a head of lettuce and some grapes and your receipt reflects your last 5 purchases. How would you feel? Unfortunately this is what some of the patients face along with the prodigal brother or sister who just returned to church.
People make choices but they shouldn’t have to continually pay for them. Ouch. I just realized that I owe some family members an apology as I type. I guess I have been giving them a receipt for the past five purchases instead of their current purchase. Sorry for the rambling but I pray that you heard my heart.
Just another day’s journey of encouraging US to stop charging the present with past choices. Peace.
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