Back to Basics (My500)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV

It’s so funny to me that because I decided to use the scripture on as a guide for me to write, that today’s scripture talks about being a new creature. I have joined one of my favorite virtual mentors, Jeff Goins, challenge of writing every day a minimum of 500 words. The only way to become better at something is to do it. We are supposed to just write without editing at this point. I can’t tell you how much of a challenge this is. I am not much of a grammarian but I love writing and I love to share.

I know that I am all over the place but trying to get to 500 words without a plan is a challenge. For now, this will be a brain dump for me as I re-acclimate myself to writing daily. I have no idea what I am going to write. Well I do know what I am going to write but this is not the time to share that. This is exercise is helping me to get there without forcing the issue.

This journey is important to me because I began it a few years ago and walked away without a good reason. I was consistent and fought through the typical writer’s block to arrive at an end result whether good or bad. I walked away from my voice because I was looking for someone to tell me that what I chose was good and valid. I forgot that it was already validated by Someone more important than the person who I looked to tell me I heard correctly. That was so unfair of me to put that person in that position without all of the facts. I realize that now and have apologized to them for that.

What I hope to get out of this 500 word challenge is confidence to be transparent again to be able to share all of my story without apology. Yes. I hold back and there is so much more to my journey that I know that I need to share with the people who are meant to read my blog.

My prayer is that when you come here that you are encouraged, empowered and/or challenged to do. No matter what “do” means to you at the moment, know that I am not mirror but the message that I share is. Choose to see yourself and how you can become more of who you were created to be while learning about my ups and downs and how to overcome challenges. I hope that you also learn that not every challenge is overcome in one sitting like our favorite television shows or books. It’s not all a happy ending AND there is always a lesson.

I have tried my best not to edit and just write. I even chose to not remove the scripture that I planned to use. I suppose it has a purpose, too. Here’s to new beginnings and going back to basics.

Just another day’s journey to starting over with a Fresh Start in the New Year.

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Follow Your Dreams

My son has loved all things acting since he was 2 years old. I took him to his first musical play when I was still a case manager along with my other clients. He sat there quietly and attentively watching every move from start to finish. The dark theater never bothered him nor did the sudden change in sounds from quiet to loud. He loved it.

Fast forward to junior high school to high school years. He took a love of engineering while still loving the thought of acting professionally. We sent him to engineering camp but somehow I think sending him to a theater camp would have sent him over the moon. Despite all of that there was still an internal battle of which road he would take after high school.

He had been the star of each show in junior high school but high school was a bit more challenging. He never was the star of the show but he always played a part. He did anything from set design to playing supporting roles. He even took a job two summers in a row that allowed him to get paid to do exactly what he loves, acting.

When it was time for college applications, they all had engineering as the major. We never thought about or considered that acting would be a major. It was never discussed. One Sunday at church, discussing the merits of HBCU’s compared to the Ivy League colleges he desired, someone talked about following your passion. A lightbulb went off for him and changed his course from engineer to acting.

We initially tried to tell him that he could still major in engineering and do acting at the same time but that advice fell on deaf ears. As a parent I was disappointed and frustrated not because I didn’t believe in him but because of the struggle that I knew that he would endure. I wanted to protect him but technically, he’s an adult now. It’s his decision.

Unfortunately, because we didn’t have the money for college he only spent one semester away. This reality fueled his passion for acting even more. I supported the decision but still mourned for the loss of my college educated child. I defended his decision to come home and fight for his dream because I knew how I felt fighting at my age with a boatload of responsibilities for my dreams.

I almost forgot why I am sharing. Sorry. I am sharing all of this because my son and other kids like him get flack for choosing non-traditional majors under the guise of it’s not transferable. After having a conversation with a relative, I realize that is a crock. A lot of majors are not transferrable. Pre-med, pre-law, nursing and education. If any of these people decide that they don’t like the profession or the profession does not love them, they still have to get another degree or figure out what’s next.

The truth is that there is some crazy stat that says the average college degreed individual is not working in the field for which they have a degree. I know several people that graduated from my college who are working in a totally different field. Did we all go get degrees for which our parents and society thought was acceptable or did we get a degree that we had chosen on our own?

I salute my son for following his dream. As a result of staying focused, he will play a role in Sister Act this weekend. He has not given up on his dream and is actively pursuing it. He also has been reapplying to colleges and making sure to complete scholarship applications. Prayerfully in the fall he will be attending Columbia College following his dream. He is doing everything he knows to do to follow his dream. Will you do the same?

Just another day’s journey of learning what it really means to follow your dreams.

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I Choose Me!

I Choose Me!

We are taught in school to raise our hands quietly and wait for the teacher or speaker to choose us. We are taught not to blurt out the answers or run to the board first. We are taught to wait for one of our classmates to choose us to play on their dodgeball team. In junior high school and beyond, we are taught to raise our hands to volunteer for roles that we choose to do for leadership, fundraising or any other activity that needs people. The problem is that all this conditioning teaches us to not choose ourselves.

My lesson this week is learning to choose me not just as an entrepreneur but in every area of my life. We are taught that it is selfish to choose ourselves over our friends and neighbors. We are taught that if we give too many answers that no one else will have a chance so we are conditioned to back up, shrink and quiet down. I realized that it is not selfish for me to choose myself or to give an answer that I want to share with others. It’s actually selfish for me not to choose myself.

I choose me every time I sit down to eat my meals at reasonably scheduled times instead of working through my meal times. I choose me every time I take a needed break from a challenging project that has me puzzled. I choose me every time I follow up on call to a prospect rather than waiting for them to call me. I choose me every time I schedule date night instead of waiting for my husband to do it. I choose me every time the doctor tells me there are no more answers and I ask another question. I choose me every time I ask a question about something that I don’t understand. I choose me.

I will not wait for someone to notice my hand has been raised waiting to be picked to do something that I feel ready to do. I will not wait to eat when I am hungry because the project is not more important than my health. I will not wait to take a break when I see that I am approaching my breaking point. I will not wait for someone to call, text or email me back when I have the ability and presence of mind to do it. I will not wait for date night to be planned for me when I can make the plans for us. I will not wait for the doctor to find an answer when he says there are no more answers. I will not wait quietly and patiently to be chosen when I have the ability to choose myself.

I choose me. Who will you let choose for you?

Just another day’s journey of learning to choose me.

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Running My Own Race (Late Post)

It’s been a long while since I have posted. Partially because I was waiting for something spectacular to happen first and partially because I hadn’t made sharing my journey a priority. My plan is to share with you a minimum of twice per month on Mondays. I may occasionally post more but twice is what I can commit to at this time. Be encouraged and enjoy.


In December of 2015, I hung up my hat as a Case Manager to take a change in career as an entrepreneur. I don’t know what I thought back then about my choice other than it was necessary. I would be lying to you if I told you that it was easy and that I have excelled in every way possible. The truth is, that this has been the toughest yet rewarding year of my life.

I have been stretched in ways that I would never allow myself to be stretched before. I have failed repeatedly, got up and asked for more in the midst of frustration and disappointment. Some would say that my actions are crazy but they don’t understand that it’s necessary for me for me to grow. See, in the past if I faced a challenge where it seemed that I would fail, I would quit. I would convince myself that it was not a good fit and move on to the next thing. I have learned that I was chasing perfection not progress.

There are days that I get up and wonder what the heck did I get my family and myself into? I also asked, who am I to think that I can actually be an entrepreneur? It’s competitive and I don’t like the idea of competition. I wondered if I was alone in my thought process and then I remembered that I have heard other successful entrepreneurs like Steve Harvey, Daymond John and Barbara Corcoran have asked similar questions in their journey. Then I realize that the only difference between them and me is the fact that they kept going. They kept running their race despite the walls of doubt or discouragement not to mention, real life happening during the fight for the dream.

Fighting through real life financial challenges, sickness and frustration will make anyone reconsider the dream until you consider the alternative. I actually got a call from a former supervisor, who I love to life, in the past few months to consider taking a position as a case manager. I will be honest. I thought about it. With two graduations and preparation for a new college student, I tried to convince myself why I should return to work temporarily. I even considered offering it as an option to her that I would take the position on a temporary basis but I knew the truth. If I went back to a 9 to 5 this time, I would not return to trying to make being an entrepreneur work no matter what lie I told myself.

Thank God for an awesome husband who was my voice of reason. Despite the financial stress on his shoulders, he told me to keep going and not to look back. He noted the difference in my approach to life as a result of this new journey. I have become more optimistic about the future and can see beyond our present circumstances. I have hope again that God’s promises are for us, too despite what it may look like, now. He helped me to see all of that and I am forever grateful.

The journey has not changed but what I think about the journey has changed. I hope to be able to share my lessons along the way with you as transparently as possible to help encourage another person who may feel stuck or giving up. Keep watching and let’s stay connected.

Just another day’s journey of learning how to run my own race.

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Will you be known for your love?


When I think about what has happened in the media since same-sex marriage was “made legal” it makes me sad. I am not saying that Christians shouldn’t have an opinion about the decision. I am saying that it is not the principle matter. Jesus called us to go and make disciples for the Kingdom of God and that comes through relationship.

The Bible is not meant to be a weapon wielding it’s contents on unsuspecting people – people who do not believe that it is true. It’s a guide book for those who believe. It’s a guide book for those who are in relationship with God who desire to know more about Him. It’s been abused by believers and non-believers alike to prove a point that the two will never agree on.

Love is left on the side to defend itself.  Yes #LoveWins but at what cost? What are we doing? Bible study is for those who believe. How can we make disciples by having unsolicited bible study out of context and out of order? When Jesus taught the multitudes, His message was one of hope and love but growth came long after the lesson.

Would you rather win souls for the Kingdom of God with love or through misguided intentions that only wins the attention of men?

Just another day’s journey of checking to make sure that I am known for God’s love.

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Check Your Motives

It amazes me how the devotionals that I have shared over the years are timeless and necessary. I have talked about checking your motives on Periscope and with some co-workers. This post always seems to come to mind but today, I thought it was important to share. Please enjoy this post that was originally posted on the Elect Ladies  blog in February/2012.

“And whatsoever ye do, do [it] heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” (Colossians3:23KJV)

 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,” (NIV)

Many times we do things to get a certain response such as praise, a pat on the back, or get whatever we desired from a spouse or a loved one but the fact is that doesn’t always happen.  When that thing that we were looking for doesn’t occur we are angry, disappointed or unreasonably upset.

What was our purpose?  Were we doing it for God to get the glory or for us to get the glory?  Ouch!  Were we doing it to get our own way or for things to go God’s way?  Were we doing it so that we looked good or so that God looks good?  Point blank, we were trying to manipulate a situation or response for our own benefit?

Now I am not saying that a gentle nudge in the right direction is wrong but check your motives.  If your feelings are hurt when you don’t get the desired response, was it truly for the Lord.  If you are upset or angry ask yourself why are you really angry?  The scripture is clear “whatever you do…” not some of the things that you do are to be done as if you were doing it for God not men.

So, the next time you do or say something for someone check your motives and your purpose.  If you are serving as if you are serving God, go for it.  If not, check yourself and save your hurt feelings.  Go ahead and cook the meal, make things better, fix the problem at work and make ministry suggestions as if you are making them for the Lord.  Since He is the rewarder of all things I will take His sincere response over man’s missed or shallow response any day.

Be blessed and encouraged and do it all for the Lord.

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What is in Your Hand?

The truth in love hurts but hopefully it heals, too.

I reread the parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14-30) recently and realized that the Master meant to call the servant lazy. Jesus taught the disciples about a a master who had three servants. He gave each of them talents according to what he thought that they could handle. In other words, he handpicked these three servants because they each had something special that would add value to him and help them grow in the process. Two out of the three received a return on their investment. The other servant did not receive a return on his investment because he did nothing. He chose to dig a hole and bury his talent.  Which one are you? What is in your hand and what are you doing with it?

Talents in bible times was currency so imagine taking $100 and burying it. Then add the fact that there was some time before the master returned from his trip since trains, planes, and automobiles did not exist yet. What did the servant do while waiting for the master to return? If he was living today, I imagine that he would spend his time on social media talking about his plans that he never does. He may even get busy doing other projects but nothing related to the talent that was placed in his hand. Is that you? What is in your hand and what are you doing with it?

After the master returned, he gathered the servants together to assess their progress. He was proud of the progress of the two who had worked while he was gone. He told them that because of their faithfulness over the little that he would give them more responsibility. No matter how small your project is, do it in a spirit of excellence. Be willing to ask for help if necessary and don’t waste time wondering how much more time do you have to finish. Work while you have time. Are you working? What is in your hand and what are you doing with it?

The servant with the one talent did not receive the same response. He must have immediately realized his mistake because he began to give excuses as to why he was not productive. The master saw through his flimsy excuse and called him lazy. He told him that he could have at least put the talent in the bank so that he could have earned interest. In other words, even if he believed that he was afraid of doing the wrong thing with the talent, he could have at least asked for help. Instead, he chose to do nothing. Have you asked for help? What is in your hand and what are you doing with it?

These three servants were completely different in their approach to work. The two immediately jumped right in and went to work. They did not appear to second think about the responsibility of the work they had to do. They did not overanalyze their plan to the point of paralysis analysis. They were given a task and they followed through. They looked at their hand and decided that what they had was valuable. What about you? What is in your hand and are you doing with it?

The other servant had a different approach. He second thought his approach. He under-analyzed his approach and decided to do nothing. He did not ask for guidance from the two even after he observed their progress. He did not seek out wise counsel from someone that he could share his thoughts and ideas. He chose to do nothing. He looked at what was in his hand and thought this money will do best in the ground rather than invest it. What about you? What is in your hand and what are you doing with it?

Which servant are you? What is in your hand and what will you choose to do with it?

Just another day’s journey of realizing the value of talent in my hand and choosing to do something about it.

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Trusting God’s Perfection Instead of My Imperfection

Count it all joy when you fall into divers temptations knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. James 1:2-3

For many years I have struggled with perfection but this morning I received a burst of fresh air by rereading James 1:2-3. This scripture tells us to celebrate the lesson in our failures or delays to destiny because it is teaching us to depend on something bigger than us. It reminds us that it is God who is control and not us.

As I continued to read James chapter 1 I learned that the perfection is in the patience, allowing God to move in His own timing. It goes on to tell us  that if you want wisdom about how to proceed in a matter even after the failure, even after the mistake, even after your vision seems to be on an indefinite pause to just ask God. He is so gracious that He will give it to you without regard to what you have done. God wants us to have a sincere and humble heart. Coming to ask Him for help is an expression of that sincerity and humility.

Now, when you ask God for wisdom for your next steps, you cannot ask him with a doubting heart. The bible calls that double minded. You cannot do something negative and positive at the same time. Think about your best friend and your worst enemy at the same time. Who did you think more about in that moment? It’s the same principle. You cannot ask God to bless something that you believe is His will and doubt that it is going to happen. Faith requires a full commitment of trusting that no matter what, God is in control. The faith is not in receiving the blessing. It is trusting that God will give us the blessing that belongs to us.

Ultimately we have to decide who we will allow to drive our spiritual car. Will we allow God to drive or will we move Him out of the way? Will we not be overtaken by shame and guilt when our plans fail or will we count it all joy? I am learning to count it all joy and to ask God for wisdom on next steps to move forward. What will you do?

Just another day’s journey of trusting God’s perfection instead of my imperfection.

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Learning to Love My Neighbor by Loving Me First

Matthew 22_39The Bible tells me in Matthew 22:39 that I am supposed to love my neighbor as myself but I have a confession. I am not sure if I should love my neighbor the way that I love myself. My love has been conditional and I don’t think that’s what Jesus had in mind. What about you? Can you remember the last time that you didn’t quite reach your goal? Were you kind and patient or were you a little rough? Did you offer yourself some grace or did you remind yourself of similar failures? 1 Corinthians 13 gives us some help on how to show love not only to our neighbors but to ourselves. It teaches us how to receive and give unconditional love.

Unconditional love is different from the type of love that we see on a daily basis in the media. It is that kind of love that keeps giving even when it’s challenging. It is the kind of love that keeps giving even when we have made mistakes. It is the kind of love that keeps giving despite our history that seems to be stuck on repeat in the worst chapter of our lives. I have another confession. For years I thought that I had to learn to love my neighbor better but what I am learning is that I need to learn to love me better — first.

If we can learn to love ourselves unconditionally, it will be easier to love our neighbor as ourselves. We will learn to be patient and kind. We will learn to not envy, be boastful, or behave rudely. We will learn to not seek out our own agenda, easily become provoked, and not keep record of past wrongs. We will learn to not rejoice in wrong doing but learn to rejoice in truth. We will be able to bear all things, believe all things, and endure all things because we will accept where our True Strength lies. Our strength is in God. We will know that Love never fails because He never fails.

In the next few weeks, I plan to share with you how the love chapter (1 Corinthians 13) is a reminder of how God expects us to love ourselves so that we can love our neighbors in the same way. This is a journey that I don’t want to take alone so I invite you to join me. Take notes and ask questions. Pray and ask God to show you how to love yourself more unconditionally. I also invite you to tell your neighbor. Let’s learn how to love as Jesus commands.

Don’t be afraid to leave a comment. You might encourage your neighbor 🙂


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Will You Let Perfection Rule?

cracked potI have had a busy week and I considered not writing. Each time that I sat down to write both my body and my mind betrayed me. I was either sleepy or unfocused because of all the things that I had to do.  Once I realized that my personal deadline to post had come and gone, I thought I can try again next week but… I knew that was not true.

I have an unfortunate pattern of becoming paralyzed by my attempt at perfection in certain situations. If something isn’t quite the way I pictured it, I push pause indefinitely. The sad part is that I only do this dance with things that are really important to me. I usually press forward and complete the task for someone else but my plans need extra special attention and more planning.

Who am I kidding? My pastor’s wife calls it analysis paralysis. I have tried in the past to overcome this challenge but once I fail or see potential for failure I pause indefinitely. I tried reading about people who pressed on in the face of failure to learn their secrets. I even began personally interviewing people who I admire about how they live an unstoppable life so that I can figure out how to overcome my challenge.

They all had one thing in common. If they failed or saw potential for failure they kept moving. They did not allow their circumstances to prevent them from pushing forward. They did not allow the pain of the past to push pause on their purpose. They pressed forward despite the broken picture of perfection.

A motivational speaker that had a pattern of being in abusive relationships chose to try dating again and found true love that did not hurt. A former substance abuser is now a certified alcohol and drug counselor and founded a non-profit softball team. A once quiet and unassuming founder of a non-profit organization who felt intimidated by the experience of others in her field now commands the floor when she speaks.

Although it is long past my personal deadline of completed work I am posting this more for me than you. My picture of perfection was shattered 3 days ago when I missed my first deadline and then again at 12:00 pm (CST), which is my preferred posting time.  I will not let perfection rule me.

Will you let perfection rule?

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